Author Archives: Chardyce Kott

No one can truly know exactly what goes on in the mind of their partner. And for most of us, the guessing game is just a dangerous attempt. But this is often all we are left with, as openly asking for what you need or desire requires significant courage and vulnerability. We are afraid that […]

As we begin a new season, a season of change and transition, what can autumn teach us? Are there lessons hidden in the weather change, the comforting activities of staying in, watching the leaves fall, and wearing more layers? Autumn can provide us with lessons in transformation, balance, mystery, and rebirth. Some lessons to reflect […]

The yin and yang of the human psyche allows for both light and dark emotional experiences. We have the capacity to feel both joy and sadness, peace and anger, hope and fear, desire and disgust, love and hate. We can even feel them all at the same time. There is no limit to the spectrum […]

Self-care is a mix of practices that promote mind-body wellness. Life is not always smooth. When we feel emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausted, it can be more challenging to make self-honoring decisions, function at work or home, and leave us feeling worse. A self-care plan reflects your specific needs. Whether it be when you are […]

There are two certainties with the concept of desire: Everyone wants to be both its recipient and its donor. Whether you are seeking an employee or a life-partner, research shows that people are drawn to certain characteristics more than others. You probably have extensive experience in your interactions with different personality types that prove how […]

One of the main contributors to emotional dysregulation is cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions are irrational thoughts that we experience surrounding a specific event, situation, or as a learned response. Cognitive distortions are common, but when experienced more regularly, they can become harmful to our overall mental health and functioning. Common Types of Cognitive Distortions: Catastrophizing: […]

Here’s a game I like to play: Whenever I am struggling to make a difficult decision, allowing fear to prevent me from moving forward, or feeling generally dissatisfied with how I am choosing to live, I transport myself to my hypothetical last few moments of my life. I envision that my clock on Earth is […]

What are boundaries? When you hear the word boundary, what comes to mind? Maybe it is the literal definition from the Oxford Dictionary, “a line that marks the limits of an area” or “a limit of a subject or sphere of activity.” Maybe you think about it in terms of relationships, work, family, or energy […]

Those parts of yourself that you show to the outside world, those parts that make up “the mask” you wear that’s your ego. It is the driver of your greatest desires, fears, and insecurities. It’s all about “me” and “I” and how do I get what I want and what about me. The ego is […]

Think for a moment about the last time that you rested or took a second to check in with yourself. Resting or practicing self-care may be a message that is encouraged frequently, and we may nod our heads in agreement, but do we really practice this? There is something significant in coming back to this […]