It sounds counter-intuitive to human nature—the idea of harming oneself. Why would anyone actively participate in self-sabotage when their entire biological system is meticulously constructed to promote their survival? We self-sabotage consciously and unconsciously. Yet, we do and we do it well. Through both conscious and unconscious methods, we tirelessly engage in behaviors that block […]
Author Archives: Chardyce Kott
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Jan
Jan
Thematic traits in literature set in wintertime focus on moments and stories filled with solitude, grief, depression, and death. While those are present in winter and there are reasons for their presence, winter also holds space and lessons in flourishing, replenishment, and attentiveness. Beauty stirs out of the rawness and vulnerability of winter. It comes […]
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Jan
Jan
It is not unusual to witness tears or despair during therapy. The ending of a relationship, relentless work demands, financial insecurity, unexpected life transitions—people express sadness for what is happening in their life in nearly every session. But lately, their sadness has little to do with themselves or their own tribulations. Their tears are dedicated […]
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Jan
Jan
While researching themes of 2021, by examining other blogs and stories (most were related to school yearbook themes at first), there began to be a pattern in the ideas. There is room for consideration as it holds space for the experiences of others around the world. It recognizes each of our world views, lessons, and […]
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Dec
Dec
MORE IS MORE. At least that is the mentality deeply engrained while growing up in a consumerist-society. And if wealthy, privileged culture is the driver of consumerism, America is the mecca. You can’t connect to your computer, phone, or tv without being bombarded with all-too-obvious messages that you need this makeup product to be more […]
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Dec
Dec
The holiday season is a time that promotes rest, love, tradition, reflection, and gathering. While this may be true, the holidays also include grief, stress, frustration, loneliness, and many other emotions. We often have the idea that they will look like the Hallmark imagery plastered across our screens, but the holidays are a mix of […]
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Nov
Nov
The quality of your relationships, how you handle conflict, and what you desire from connection to others are all direct products of your attachment style. Attachment theory proposes that the connection we have with our primary caregiver (or lack thereof) during out first few years of life will determine how we behave in all relationships. […]
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Oct
Oct
A common topic discussed in therapy is control. What it looks like, how it plays out, and the need for it. Control is the act of using power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events used to maintain or increase feelings of safety, security, and capabilities. The desire for control in […]
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Oct
Oct
We Don’t Have All the Answers Sometimes, we feel at a complete loss as to how to help you. This may be our darkest disclosure and what leads us to question our purpose most often. It is also heartbreaking to admit when you can see the desperation on a client’s face as they look to […]
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Oct
Oct
As we enter a new season, one where school started again, the holidays are around the corner, and things are up and running, life may feel overwhelming. What does it mean to feel overwhelmed? The Oxford definition is to be buried or drowned beneath a huge mass. That is a pretty staggering and informative explanation […]